Personal Development

Most teenagers don't even see a reason for abstinence -- until they're older and can look back at that completely unsatisfying first time. But even adults should consider abstinence from time to time. An active sex life can be a lot of work, and even when you have one, it can be less fulfilling than just waiting for the right person.

How stressed are you? Is it real stress, or do you have worry after worry chasing through your head? No matter how many problems you have, you can learn to lower your stress level through thought management. And when you've brought your worries under control, you can start eliminating the problems causing them.

How important is the opinion of others to your everyday life? Not very? Okay, would you walk out your front door in a nightgown or boxer briefs? Do you modify your speech so others don't judge you by what you really think? Everyone needs societal approval. But you can learn to control the level to which you need it, which can enable you to live the life you want.

What emotion does the scent of roses, your mother's fresh cookies, or a woman's perfume create in you? How about gasoline? A skunk? The sense of smell is the most primal of your basic five senses. Aromatherapy, or use of scents to change your mood and heal yourself, can be a powerful sexual tool.

Modern Western society is overmedicated. There's no doubt. But some medications are necessary. When you start looking at prescription medications for sex, you find everything from benzodiazepams to Viagra. Which are really necessary for you? Are there ways to modify your behavior that can make these medications unnecessary?

Your posture can tell people what to think about you. Don't believe me? Wear a suit, and slouch. Now stand up, back straight and shoulders back. There's a huge difference. A person with an erect posture and a smile on his face is seen by most people of either sex as more attractive than any other person who slumps and does not smile. He is also healthier and happier.

There are two types of plastic surgery: reconstructive, to repair or bring into the range of normal a person's body; and elective, designed to enhance some feature a person possesses. How dangerous is plastic surgery -- physically and psychically? Should you have plastic surgery to correct what you see as a flaw?

Scent is the oldest and most primal of the five basic senses. It should, therefore, not be a surprise that sexual attraction in many species is based on pheromones, hormones with a smell that subtly change behavior. Even humans may be susceptible to pheromones, and recently, perfume manufacturers have taken advantage of this.

You grow accustomed to your own smell. Other people don't. That's the basic interpersonal truth behind the attractiveness of personal hygiene. What is surprising is that so many people need to be told to think about this. Taking care of yourself in every way, on the other hand, will attract people to you.