Masturbation

 

Sexual desire is instinctual and the urge to receive pleasure through our genitals is our most primitive sexual desire. The basic pursuit of this pleasure starts at an early age when during the infantile exploration of our body we discover the pleasure that is felt as we touch our genitals. Several myths surround masturbation, maybe most of them were things parents told there kids when they caught them masturbating. Masturbation is the basic way to seek pleasure through our genitals and provided that it isn't a desire that dominates our everyday and night thought, and that we are capable to receive and deliver great pleasure in lovemaking with our partner also, it is rather normal.

To masturbate there are several techniques and some use aids as porn pictures, sex objects, and others. Compulsive or chronic masturbation in which the person masturbates anywhere and daily (even several times in one day) has been associated with inflammation of prostate in men; this could be because every masturbation is followed by ejaculation, so the prostate in these cases is in constant contraction and secretion, causing inflammation. So too little can be bad, but too much is twice worst.

Masturbation doesn't always have to be lonely job, it can be part of the foreplay before the sexual intercourse; when done before sexual penetration in women it guaranties proper lubrication before penetration, with this the pain that some women feel during this phase, due to lack of proper lubrication that is present mainly in menopausal women will be nullified. But this is not the only case as masturbation of the female genital organs becomes also an exploration for the search of the zones were pleasure is triggered, so it can become an overall pleasurable adventure for both.

Freud a famed psychologist and to whom we owe the explanation of the Oedipus and Electra complex, separated the human life in stages, based on were or with what pleasure was delivered. For example he identified the oral stage through which an infant passes and were pleasure is obtained through the mouth. These stages are circumscribed in an age group, and considered normal only when present at that certain age range. For Freud masturbation in certain stages in life is considered “normal”, but in adulthood he considers it to be immature, since for him masturbation has it's period in which it is acceptable and if it is still practiced in adult age then the person have unresolved issue and stayed stuck in a particular stage of his life. Freud was one of the pioneers in Clinical Psychology, and one of the first to talk freely about sexuality, but everything evolves and so does also the beliefs in sexuality matters. Today masturbation is not only acceptable at any age, but there are scientific researches that put it as part of the treatment used for prostatitis, after prostate surgery for cancer to maintain adequate vascularity of the penis, and it is used for the semen recollection for fertility test and sperm banks. Then how will it be acceptable only for tests and to build up sperm banks and it is not acceptable to enjoy the private pleasure it delivers?

The key is moderation because excessive masturbation could cause premature ejaculation, reduce the sex drive, create psychological problems and reduce the urge for sex with a partner.

How we manifest our sexuality is an individual choice, and if we choose at certain times to enjoy sex alone or in company, through masturbation or sexual intercourse is something we are in total liberty to consider and exercise.