Love

It has been said that if you cannot love yourself then you will never love anyone else. While some people argue this to be true, time and again you see relationships fail because people are not emotionally stable enough or secure enough to handle all that the relationship requires.

Emotions such as love are hard for some people to truly understand. Often, people will mix up attraction or lust and call it love. There is no steadfast definition of love. In many cases, it means something entirely different to each person you come across. The important thing to remember is that unless you can love yourself you will never be able to love and appreciate another person like you should.

If you know that you have problems with self-acceptance and that you do not think that you love yourself you might want to seek help. This help could teach you to love yourself by showing you all the good things about yourself that you often miss. Therapy can offer self-acceptance through working out past issues which may be stopping you from going further.

Of course, if you want to work on things on your own this is entirely possible as well. However, if you have problems with emotions and you feel you need to work on your views of love and yourself you should make a commitment to avoiding relationships while you are working on these problems.

Try doing some of the following things to learn to love and appreciate yourself and your future relationships:

Schedule time to do things that you enjoy – You should always make time for yourself. If you ignore your own needs in favor of doing for others or working you are neglecting your needs and any potential relationship needs that you may have.

Forgive Yourself – Love means you never have to say you are sorry for your emotions. The same goes for loving yourself. Take the time to forgive yourself for any and everything you are mad at that you have done. Until you can forgive yourself and move on you cannot progress.

Understand Your Needs – You need to realize that all people are human. We all have needs and we all make mistakes. As a person, you should attempt to learn all you can about yourself, what makes you tick, and what you need to be a happy person. Likewise, you should also make sure to allow yourself room to grow and make mistakes because you will make mistakes at some point.

While you are attempting to decipher the mystery of yourself and to get to the point where you can say you love yourself you should work only on this. If it is important for you to be in a relationship this means something is wrong.

While relationships are excellent for many people, if you need to be in one it is a signal that you have emotions of your own that need to be dealt with. Make a commitment to being in a relationship with yourself. Once you learn to love yourself and the good you can offer someone else then look for love elsewhere. This will ensure you can love and appreciate your relationships in ways that you could not before.